Dre Cooper

One wonders why some people (the clever ones) walk the path they do - or make the decisions they make. Some of those people's decisions can be shrugged off with an acceptance (because one loves/likes them) and even though a "Dumb ass" is muttered under one's breath.
Some things, some decisions, have a finality to them that leave many shaking their heads, with no answer as to why... why that particular path, decision, etc.
Not like a tattoo in a conspicuous place or something like that.
I mean, a life changing or in this case, life ending type of decision.


Video shot/editted way back in '06 while seeing each other.
Then reposted for Dre's 29th Birthday in 2010.


Because I love you Dre, I'm going to have to figure out how to accept this particular decision of yours.

Miss you, Toots.

Thanks for your concern and curiosity about this awesome and amazing woman.
Many still ask about Dre, so I figured I'd address those queries here...

Dre passed away from a suicide almost a month after turning 30 (which was on Jan.4, 2011).

Even when I had dated her years ago now, there was no indication her mother's death from cancer (when Dre was young) or the difficulties with her biological father and inheritance (father had committed suicide) had really any effect on her in her adult years.
What family she did have she was very close to and a friend of her's here in Calgary was like a sister.
There is much more about all of this on Facebook - where a friend had set up a memoriam. Please have a look at it if you can.

My Facebook Note:
Dre Cooper 1981-2011

As you may already know, there's a mess of folks going to Hang the DJ (at Dickens Pub) to pay respects, talk with others (it actually helps). Add a little something in a journal, which will be taken to a private family 'celebration of Dre.'


I can't really offer much in the way of WHY, but after a long chat with Jordan Kidney and Tom (Voice in the Void) - who saw her last, it really helped out with an acceptance of Dre's decision.

Taking into consideration Dre's past, the death of her mother (from cancer) and eventual suicide of her father...

There's statistical stuff I've heard about suicides being more likely if there's one in the family – but you may want to look into that yourself.

...rough times as a teen, struggles with step-dad over inheritance, her surprisingly deep spiritual beliefs (which I was only beginning to figure out) and her countless positive encounters with all kinds of people she may have concluded that she was full.

Dre had made such an impression on so many, her life was full. Her heart was full.

The time line between the last person to see her (Sunday 11:30pm) and the following day (Monday) at around 3:00pm, seems to me Dre had a determination about what she did. Which brings me to the conclusion, that yes in fact those things in her life did have a lasting effect. Despite all the positivity she put out and got back two-fold, she may have had that one singular idea with her all this time.


As minute as it was, that one tiny thread of an idea is all it takes sometimes for a determined individual to take action.

None of us agree with the action, but maybe our disagreement with it is selfish.


We say we all accept Dre for how she is, so then let’s do just that, accept the love she gave us (during what ever times we had with her) and give it right back…

…in the form of remembrance and acceptance.
I know that sucks. But if you do actually love someone, accept them as is, then love them how ever you can.

Speaking of love, as a friend (I met through Dre) suggested…
“Tell the ones you love, you love them.”

We’ll all miss Dre, but perhaps because of her, we’re not alone, we all have each other.